My opinion based on my personal experience is to not move out. I had young children and moved out within a week to give my wife the space she requested. I did not know at the time that the OM had re appeared and by moving out and funding everything I enabled her to continue her fantasy.
If it ever happened again to me I would stay put, and let her deal with the reality of a broken family. How many WAS would continue the path if they ended up out of the family home renting a room? not many.
I said before, they have to come back because they love you not because it's the easier option. Giving them the space in harsh reality gives them the time to think and in that reality if they decide they don't want you then you have to accept that.
You have as much right to a family life, as your wife, it took me nearly 3 years to regain that. You don't have to be an ass just calm and confidently state your not moving out but will help her move out. Easier said than done but dig deep Newman, DB is based on going against natural instincts and this although will be tearing you apart inside, being strong (or appearing to be strong) is the only way forward.
All the best Stronger
Me 39 W 39 D8 S5 Married 13yrs Together 20years EA June 06 Ilyninlwy Jan 07 Seperated Jan 07
