Looking to keep hope alive

[ALF213]

When I try to give her space, she pulls me back in. Around and around I go.

Well, give her space and then don't get pulled back in. She's USED to you getting pulled back in, so expect a backlash from that non-response by you initially, and then it will settle back down.

-PM

Thanks for the reply, PM. I've found a lot of your posts in other threads to be educating. I admire your patience.

I think fear is still holding me up. There is a lot less than there used to be, but I think I'm scared of pushing her away. It feels good when we get a long, and think to keep that momentum going. To continue to be happy around her. But I do feel I need to try something different.

I was going to pull away more once we are separated. A couple weeks ago she was set on that happening sometime next week. There has been no more talk of it. This is typical of her (avoiding a tough conversation), so I really don't know where she stands. Should I start pulling away now?