To have someone you devoted your life to turn against you for no reason, whew, that hurts. But I'm still holding on to hope for you my Portia. I hope he walks thru that open door. I'm allowed to have expectations on your behalf, just not my own
Hi Linda, I agree. Not only does it hurt but we must reconcile ourselves to WHY? WHY do we, who were once the centre of their life, become nothing? Or worse than nothing, someone to be avoided?
And thank you. I have not heard from him since my last text but maybe one day he will respond. Only time will tell.
Interesting read, isn't it? Especially all of the "signs" that he W starts to see and wonder why she didn't notice sooner.
Originally Posted By: mizjjd
I don't know what to say. I wish I knew a magic word or two to make this easier for you.
Guess I'll just send some (((hugs)))
Just you stopping by MizJ, is great. To have people understand and empathize with me has been worth more than I can ever repay.
Originally Posted By: ForeverYoung
I too agree with Scott and Linda that even a neutral response like the one he gave is a good thing. Remember, he thinks he's done, so you're not going to get a wonderful loving response. My goal would be to maintain a connection without pursuing, and slowly build on it.
Hi FY, what you say absolutely makes sense. I never went NC to play games. It was for me and it was good for me. I like that both you and Linda think that a response was a positive thing, even as detached as it was. And he responded twice.
I don't know when I or if I will initiate contact with him again. We are so far apart, those texts were our contact over a two month period, he barely responded, I am certain the GF is still there, there does not seem to be any indication that he is anything but done with me and although we are used to being physically apart we have not seen each other in seven months (longest ever), it feels more right to me that I work on me and work on letting go and being done. Perhaps if I felt any encouragement or friendliness from him or there wasn't a GF.
I am wondering FY - when and what would you suggest my next contact be, if I am so inclined?
