While I'm very new to all this I don't have advice for you when you meet her for drinks but I read this whole thread and you seem to be making good progress. You give me some hope for my own situation. I am only 2 months in and 1 month since she moved out. I'll be following your thread. Good luck, I'll keep you in my prayers.
M:33 H:32 S: 5,4, 8 months BD:4/1/13 W moved out: 5/4/13
M:33 W:32 Married:8 Together:10 S:5,4 and 8 months BD: 4/1/13 W move out day: 5/4/13 ILYBNINWY,WAS. No talk of wanting to save relationship