been in a funk since he texted me, cant believe ill be divorced in a month......I still want to save my marriage but its impossible now.
Not necessarily, couples have reconciled even years after D. The key to saving a marriage is to quit "trying" to save it. That's DB'ing. Don't "fight" to save your M. Quit pitting yourself against your H. Take the pressure off of him. The reason marriages reconcile after divorce is because the LBS FINALLY takes all the pressure off and starts living their own life, and that in turn makes the WAS see the person they originally fell in love with instead of the person that's been fighting with them in recent months. If LBS's could figure that out earlier then there would be far fewer D's I think.
