Bill- I wonder if that works the other way, too. Goal report - 1: I was very pleasant all night - we had a good time playing, although we got a little snippy with each other over getting our new bed. The guy who is selling it to us called me back, and I called H at work/home to let him know what the guy had said, and ask if he wanted to go ahead with it. I told him we had to go pick it out, and I had to work all week. He said "Okay, so what do you want me to do?" For some reason, I STILL wait for him to offer (hey, can I go pick it out for us?). Of course, he was waiting for ME to ask for what I wanted straight out, which I should have. He wasn't sure if I would want to be there, or if I was okay with him going on his own. So I got mildly irritated (for no reason-wtf is my problem sometimes?), but I managed to stick to the subject, not start a fight, and not be insulting. He is supposed to call the guy back today to arrange a firm time to go pick one out. Here's my dilemma - do I talk to him about it when I call him? Ask him what the guy said? Or do I not mention it until he brings it up - I don't know where a guy would start feeling nagged. Any thoughts, Bill? That's great that you were able to move past that, Bill - your advice about stopping and saying something completely non-threatening is a really good idea. Thanks! Myrrh P.S. Goals for today: 1: Wait until at least 4pm to call H - it'll give him a chance to call me if he wants (but I think he lost the number again). When I call, ask how he is before I ask if he called the mattress guy. WHATEVER he says, be okay with it. Try to figure out a solution/what we want to do if he hasn't called him, and LISTEN when he tells my why. Alternatively, be EXTREMELY appreciative if he did call him. Praise him tothe skies! 2: Continue with my Flylady missions - last night's went great, and now my computer area is neat and tidy. 3: Read the materials we have in the office on thought-stopping. Work really hard on it during daily convo with H. I'll let you guys know how it went!
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
