you are no troll, no way... you are one of my favorite people here, i love to check in here and get your perspective on your journey, i can really feel your heart and it helps me.
i heard something on forgiveness from tara brach (buddhist psychology) that i wanted to share with you. she said that you can not WILL yourself to forgive but that you can have a WILLINGNESS to forgive, and that intention opens the door to forgiving.
she told a story about approaching a dog, the dog growling and realizing that the dog's leg was caught in a trap.. she said that any time someone offends us, it is bc their leg is caught in a trap.
she said the 2 trainings on anger are: 1. to be with each other and realize that just how i get afraid and lost, so do you... 2. to look at another and see their intrinsic goodness..
i think it is a process... for me, i have more moments in which i can feel that way about my W... but i am not there all the time and there are still triggers and times i feel a great deal of anger
glad you had a good trip ((((((((((((((((((((subguy))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13
