B, Mlcers tend to wear masks. The happy or all's well in the world masks are worn around outsiders. But, it takes a lot of effort and energy to wear them all of the time.
When it comes to the lbs, they may wear the happy mask for a while, but eventually the mask becomes too heavy and the burden of trying to stay that way wears them down and that's when the lbs begins to see the other side of the mirror image. We are the "safe" ones that they can actually be themselves for the moment.
It took me a long to come to the realization that my xh was wearing two different masks, i.e., one for the ball and one for the cottage. When you can step back and watch the various masks or personalities take place it can become most interesting because it's really not about the lbs at all, but about them and trying to justify their lives as they are now. Very sad.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
