Don't understand, why now???? Plus what do I do??

[ct man 1969]

I responded a few days ago, but it never posted. Anyway, yes the kids are very angry @ their mom. Their take is that I was willing to and have changed for the better, have stuck to those changes and now my wife has chosen to rip this family apart. My older doesn't want to live with my wife and has been openly expressing this from time to time. I have no idea about my younger one and I don't want to ask b/c I don't want her feeling like she needs to take a side.

Custody has been brought up and is really the only reason we're involving lawyers at this point. We can't agree on it at all.

I did sit my kids down Friday night and spoke to them for about an hour and told them that we all need to be respectful of my wife/their mom at all times. Especially at times we're mad at her for upsetting us with her actions. There's been a huge turn around with the way they interact with their mom, and I'm proud of them. In fact today is my wife's b-day and they both wanted to get her something. This is a huge difference from a few weeks ago. For mothers day my older one didn't even want to give her a card.