Hint on the cryptic message: You can watch other member topics and find stuff that's relevant and works for you. Just don't expect that the sitches (nor appropriate support or advice) to stay the same for long. Your W is driving her own ship (the one with the broken rudders) and it ain't moving in a straight line nor likely following the same ocean current of other WAS/MLCers of LBS who are here. IOW, your and Crimson's sitches may not stay the same for long because your W is spewing right now, and his is just unsure. Those are two different paths and so will diverge the paths.
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On your sanity validation. Look... here's the deal... you have work to do on yourself...
AND...
You ARE sane...
Detach...
Because you are not going to feel sane when dealing with your W, right now.
Took me a while to figure that one out. When I detached and had enough time with sanity... I started to finally accept that I'm NOT crazy.