I am with Wonka in the defeat thing. I'd just classify it as a project that has been completed and it's time for a new one. Somehow I think that has a better slant.
And I also know that you have had a lot of growth since the first time you started this process. I consider you a winner!
Hugs,
Bets
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."