Quote: I am afraid that we are going to get in a fight like we almost did tonight because I am determined to feel rejected no matter what happens. I'm mad because he is still working, even thought I should be happy he's even considering spending time with me at all. Part of me is frustrated and afraid - what if he says he wants to move back? What if he doesn't? I am equally terrified of both alternatives and I don't know how to stop being scared.
First of all, if you start down the path that you think you will fight, you wll. Try try try to think that things will go well - try to remember a time you had together where you didnt fight. Try to be upbeat. If you find yourself thinking about a future fight, stop stop stop. Think about something else. Dont get frustrated over "is he coming home or not" - let it go for the time being. Nothing will change in the next 24 hours (sorry it's true and it sucks) but have the courage to say "I can't change this right now so I can't worry about it right now".
just stay calm and let the fishie swim on by.
Bill.
"you are who you chose to be" - Iron Giant
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