I guess in a nutshell I'm the one who did the damage, yet the one who most wants to stay in the marriage. We do have a joint counseling session next week, and then a family vacation to the East Coast, which she is now not going to be a part of. It should be a good test for me ... I will text her when the kids and I get to our hotel, and when we're checking out. But nothing else. And I will let the kids talk to her on a nightly basis to tell her about their day, but will only talk to her if she asks.
For what it's worth, things aren't all that bad in the house right now -- we don't have a ton of conversation, but there isn't a lot of arguing, either.
Me 47 W 44 T 17 years, M 15 years D13, D10 March 2013 -- broke a trust/cheated late May 2013 -- W spoke of separation for first time June 2013 -- began reading DB
