Linda, In many instances the locks have to be changed to ensure your privacy and also to ensure that your spouse doesn't come in while you are away and move valuable items from the home. It's not a matter of standing or giving up on your relationship, but a matter of setting a boundary about your home being your safe haven. Surely, her h isn't going to give her a key to his new place because he wants his privacy as well. Many will run away and not provide you w/an address or inform you where to send their mail. It's all about being private and having secrets.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
