Getting Back to Me

[needgrace]

hi RT,

good for you, to turn the focus back onto YOU. your W makes it difficult, i would imagine that her "check-ins" make it harder to turn your focus away from her and your M...and present a diversion from sitting in and focusing on your feelings... did that happen a lot during the M? if so, what can it teach you?

look under that fear about wasting time... where else does that pop up in your life and what else is wrapped up in it?

it is a good time for lists... one DBer who is on the piecing thread, scared silly, made a list of hurtful things her H had done during the M and also a list of nice things she had done for him and his family during their M, those lists helped her detach and put things in perspective..

making lists of your aspirations for yourself (who you want to be in the world) or your future Rs are good ones..

this is your opportunity (dreaded as it is) to go DEEP.. i know that i have never been so broken open as now and that is when growth comes..

Take care of yourself, RT.... not W right now..... this time is for YOU.