PM, I just had my birthday a couple of days ago too, so happy birthday to us
You are doing a fantastic job. Your W isn't sure of what she wants and she's doing a lot of reaching out, it takes a ton of discipline to hold back and keep giving time and space, but it's what you've been doing and it is the right thing to do. She's got to work through this on her own.
Also your W is communicating pretty well with you, it's unusual for a WAS to share so much about what's going on internally. I often talk about how the WAS may seem calm, cool and collected on the outside but inside is going through a lot of turmoil over their decision to break up the family, and that is exactly what your W is expressing to you. I think you should pat yourself on the back for this, I think the reason she is so willing to share her inner thoughts is because you've done so well at listening and validating. You've made her feel confortable that she can tell you these things without being judged.
You're doing a great job of keeping the way home paved and smooth, just keep doing what you're doing!
