I know that taking down all the pictures was a huge step towards letting my H go. I still haven't put them back up, don't know that I will put them back up even if I decide to R with H.
I was actually thinking of the whole moving on thing last night. The closest experience I can think of is my HS boyfriend. We dated for 4 years. Even now, I still have a love for him. But, I was able to move on. I look at it like that. I will always have love for my H. But I met him when I was 22, and it definately was a young, naive love. I won't ever have that again, and frankly, I'm ok with that today. I know that someone I feel that deeply for can hurt me. Whoever I have an R with, I will look at actions more so than "feelings". A mature relationship requires things today that I didn't realize as a young person.
I know that there are many men out there who are ready and willing to love us. Not cheat on us and treat us the way we deserve. Time will tell if it is our H's or someone new. But I know that. I have lost the fear that I will never have love again. I know I will. And I know you will, too.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
