Is there light at the end of the tunnel Part 1?

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Hello DH, sorry it took me this long to update. I don't have as much free time where I can put down my thoughts but I do keep readings other's stiches on my phone.

Update... After speaking with IC, IC said there is something about W that keeps her there. Every time I pull back, she comes forward. I have noticed sometimes she is acting like the way I was acting before. I need to detach more but do it in a loving way. What I have also noticed is when I detach, I become withdrawn and I need to find the balance since that was one of the original issues we’ve had.

Run down on what has happened since my last post. I’ll cut them apart by date

5/30 evening- After S goes to sleep and we are sitting outside, W said that there is nothing we should talk about and to disregard her morning request. I said ok and explain that it is not I am not willing to talk about my feelings but setting a schedule would not be that productive and pointed out the MC. She sort of agreed. States that she needs to work on not waiting on me to validate her feelings and that shares these feelings with me and she feels like they are not valid if I don’t agree with her. I told her that I am just learning about feelings and validation and what it means. Whether I agree with her or not, her feelings are real to her and should not look to me to make them real. I said we both have our own realities and that is real to each of us.