You worry that he's going to go have an A. He is less likely to seek it if he's getting what he needs in that respect, from you. No matter how much you don't like that you aren't getting your needs met, right now, you are setting the ground work for possibly saving your R and having your needs met in the future.
This is my plan. I work on maintaining our connection and building on it. I don't want OM filling W's emotional needs.
When she is receptive, I engage. If she is cool, I give her space.
Oh, and welcome to the (best) MLC support group!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
