"I too agree with Scott and Linda that even a neutral response like the one he gave is a good thing. Remember, he thinks he's done, so you're not going to get a wonderful loving response. My goal would be to maintain a connection without pursuing, and slowly build on it.
I'd continue to do this until I didn't want to/couldn't any longer. Only then would I go NC. No playing mind games with my life partner for me. I know others see it differently, but there you have my take on it.
One thing's for sure... if neither of you contacts the other, then it's over for sure. Bust On!
Forever is advising the same thing as Scout did in that quote you copied, Portia. I'm sort of clueless, and running on emotions, which is NOT a good thing when dealing with MLC, but I trust FY, and Scout made SO much sense. Hang in there! It's not over until YOU decide you're done.
I'm almost finished with that book you recommended, The Affair. I'm up to part three, the story told from the viewpoint of the mistress. Her words to Robert are the EXACT same words the Tramp uses to my H. You make me feel foolish, you're weak and afraid, you've got to make a decision now or I'm finding a new boyfriend. I knew MLCers have predictable scripts they follow, but it seems the OW do too! Who knew?!!
