Husband has one foot out the door!

[mizjjd]

Hey Hwy.

Sorry you are having a down day.

Its been my experience that when those days come, just let those feeling wash over you, like a wave on the beach. As time goes by, the bad days lose their strength. Really, they do. Trust me on this. And you will have good days too, even in the midst of all the chaos and pain, there will still be days the sun shines on you. So just hang in there.

I liked the quote you showed from Sparky. If you like it as well, if it really speaks to you, read it often.

You are right, your H is escaping and thinking. As Sparky said, he needs this time and this space. So give it to him. Find fun things to do with your kids while H is busy. Or, hire a sitter if its within your budget and go out. See a movie. Walk the mall. Get your hair done.

Idk about your H and a DB coach. I'd suggest you have another session, and ask the counselor.

It is probably best practice to NOT share too much of DB with your H. ESPECIALLY the strategies and techniques.

I like your lists. What sort of hobbies interest you?

As for being mysterious, it sounds like you're off to a good start on that as well.

I read on another posters thread that she turned right instead of left when leaving her house - making her H wonder where she was going lol. I don't know if thats an option for you, but it shows how simple making them go "hmmm" can be. Another person repainted the living room. Another rearranged the furniture. You are artistic, yes? Well let that creative monkey out of the bag and go wild with it. The trick is to find something that excites you - remember its all done for YOUR benefit.

Hang in there Hwy. It hasn't been a real long time for you and you already show signs of progress. Thats fantastic! And the flip side, its been what, four months? And your H is still there. Overall, you are in pretty good shape.

Cheers