Well, I have started to play with them more. Sit and talk to them about stuffs. Trying to connect. I suppose participating in conversations is something I have to work on.
This is good! Keep working on that connecting. How old are your daughters? I hope you really get to know them, find out who they are.
It is good too that you recognize that you need to participate in conversations more. Even if the conversation doesn't interest you, it is kind and compassionate to pay attention to the speaker. Because often the speaker believes your lack of interest means a lack of interest in THEM, not the topic.
I suggest you do a computer search on "empathic" or "active" listening. Challenge yourself to really tune in to conversations, regardless of the topic.
What will you do now about finances?
Has your wife moved out?
I cannot afford therapy either, but I find this site/forum to be of great value. Do A LOT of reading here. And do A LOT of writing too. Keep your thread as a journal, this will really help you progress. And find one or two other posters to follow too. Post encouragement or compassion on their threads. This will be practice for the "real" world and help you become "warmer".
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
