Magic, Right now his drug of choice is his work and renovating thoughts. Nothing says that he may be one of those that will have an affair, but it's always possible. Your h strikes me as he may be somewhere in replay and as you know, in replay anything can happen. I would suggest that you table thoughts of an affair and leave that one alone unless you see or hear something otherwise.
Why are you struggling w/a decision about Florida? Go and have fun. You need a break and hopefully you'll think of something other than your h. Nothing drastic is going to happen in a week. It's just what the doctor would order up. It will do you good.
I just posted some info on PON's thread about support programs and I did address your comments about your co-dependency support group. Magic, I think you may have the wrong impression about them. They aren't there to offer you suggestions or fix your problems. They are there to give you an outlet to talk about you and your problems. By being in the room and listening to others, you are not only lending support, but you are also going to gain some knowledge from listening that may help you along the way. The same would apply as to when you visit a shrink, they listen and ask questions, but they do not always offer advice. They want you to do the work on yourself.
Unless there is an issue w/the business or some other situation that requires your attention, I would plan to go to Florida for the week. This would be a 180 for you because you would be making a decision to do something on your own w/o your h.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
