I don't include the typical signature for privacy reasons, just in case W happens upon here...whether it would work or not is debatable.

But, in short:
-W's father dies summer 2008
-W has EA with old HS BF summer 2009, starts distancing, depressed. EA is cheating on his wife with my W and at least one other M woman.
-IC and I, thionking it was garden variety affair, work to stop it spring 2010.
-Things good until spring 2011, depression, questioning, distancing, etc...
-Summer 2011 phase 2 starts with BD, replay, online cyber-sex chat and vidchat, multiple EA's and at least 1 PA 2012 that ended Jan 2013.
-April 2013 BD #3. D discussed, etc.
-Now "MAYBE" thinking of POSSIBLY working on M. I just don't know because she hasn't told me either way, but actions seem to imply she wants to try, even if just for the kids sake...again, I just don't know.

Maybe re-read rH's threads from the beginning, or anyone's really.

You need to give this a lot more time, imo.

In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus

Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm