Say What??

[2chiquitos]

Thank you SD for asking. I didn't want to go into it on that last post since it's pretty long. So here goes.

H has a lot of energy (even as a child) so he needs to do high energy exercising like spinning, running, etc. I get that. I would totally understand if he needs to do this every day. The problem I have is that he teaches classes 4 times a week and it interferes with family time and the kids schedule.

Also, it's a pain when he has to find someone to sub his class. He gets gas money out of it so it's not much of a paycheck. I bring in more tutoring than he does. He is ok about finding a sub as long as I let him know 2-3 days in advance. That can't always happen when we have a 2yo and a 5yo.

We never have family dinner since he teaches at 7pm and has to leave at 6. It leaves no room for help getting the kids to bed on time. Since I was tutoring a lot these past few weeks he would take the kids to the gym and they would be in bed late and you can imagine how it dominoes to the next day. Screws up my schedule and the kids.

I always had a problem with his commitment to the classes before we had kids and after the kids came I thought it would change. It changed where his classes are closer to the house but he's still gone from 6pm to 8:30pm.

ALSO and this is a big one, most of the people in his classes are women and I NEVER felt comfortable with how he interacted with them. Borderline flirting. I stopped going to the gym with him when we were dating for this reason. He swears that he isn't flirting but I notice his "friendliness" is taken as flirting by other women and they come on to him. He plays it off as if he had no idea.

ALSO, when he started seeing OW, this was his easy way of seeing her. Inviting her to his classes and they would do cardio together before the class. I believe him when he says she no longer goes to that gym. She only went because of him. But it stirs up a lot of feeling when he goes.

So, yes I it is a dealbreaker.