first time(&last) & still need help

[albamarie]

Hi Nero,

Thanks for asking about my weekend, non celebration! No, there was no 10 min stop to Walgreens or anywhere else to pick up a card or anything. But, you know he has never been a guy that kept up w things like that anyways. It's funny because in the sitch we're in I actually expect it more than before.

Maybe it's because I'm more in tune w what I want, making things more noticable to what he doesn't give me! Also, I think it's because if you've been such an ass and now want to be nice, or wtf he is being, wouldn't you think these moments are good opportunities to show yourself?

He did finish my kitchen, and do some x work around the house after a triple shift at work, so I do see that and give it what it's worth. I'm not trying to be selfish or stubborn, I just don't want to get stuck in the " making excuses for him" routine.

Either way, we are still not a C, at least to me, there has been no conversation or breakthrough other than his actions toward me. I will not base my future on this alone!

I keep thinking what "I" would do if h said what your SO said about FL. I don't know! He made it very clear, I guess, that you two are good ole friends, and ow is his, dare I say, one he goes to, his GF! If I went I would feel like FU, this is my life and I'm not stepping aside for you, or what am I the one who won't get a hint?

He's not committed to ow, he belongs to no one! So, she has no say if you go there, she must know, maybe she figures your like her and doesn't care about commitment. She knows your tied up in his life, she must like it like that, then she doesn't have to fully deal w him, some girls like that!

Can you do the whatever see ya in a week or so R, no, your not even in a R w h right now. It sounds like they have and continue to use each other. You need to get far away from that, not become a party. Why is ow so content w the non R all these yrs, to only have in the end no part of him? She's either very independent or wants nothing to do w commitment to a man. So you make the perfect buffer!

If you go, when he comes back from his flight, you will be infuriated, which will make you look like, not a team player in their game! When h would come back after a day of taking ea just getting groceries I would want to rip his face off! Nero, we are not the girls that share, we are homemakers who want our man to have eyes and care for only us!!!!

We are not carefree, free love, Bohemian, key party girls!!

Let him see you take a stand for yourself and not go. At first he may see it as a silly sacrifice for no reason, but he will ponder, he just won't tell you. Don't even say why just say, I'm fine! He doesn't miss you, and when he needs a dose of you he comes to you, keep it that way! This is of coarse only IMHO! Just say enjoy your summer as I will mine, see ya douchebag!

But, again I'm angry willing to sacrifice my man girl! So maybe my words are not good for you and your sitch! I just don't see what to return to, what was cute is now stupid on him, what was funny is now dorky, what smelled good now has smokers smell, but that my sitch!

Ask yourself, what are you holding on to, what do you want out of this sitch! Maybe you can just be in FL and pat him on the head as he gives you the house to yourself. Hell dance around in your underwear and have some wine! Make a friend! What can you handle?