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Hey Miz J,

I was touched by the text exchanges between you and H. Such an emotional time.

I'm sure he was telling the truth when he said that your text meant a lot to him, and that he read it several times. No doubt.

Thinking of you, hoping for some good news. Miracles happen everyday smile


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Thanks Mz. Jay, for sharing your MIL's name, it will make it easier for me to pray, but like I said, I know God knew exactly who I was praying for smile

Yes, I did read your posts about what your FIL told your H about how horrible he'd been to your MIL. Not exactly something a man needs to hear from his dad, and it shows your H's confused MLC mindset that this would not cause him to say "wow that must have hurt my mom, I don't want to give my wife that same pain" to himself. I think Ohio and New York are in the same time zone, is she in surgery yet? If so, it will probably be a long time before you hear anything, positive or negative, so don't worry unnecessarily just because there is no news yet, okay?

Praying for you and your H now too, sorry that did not occur to me earlier, duh! Keep us posted Mz. Jay.

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My dearest MizJ,

I know how hard it is to deal with sick parents and without being a bit gender-biased, I do think that men take things harder than women. Maybe it is because many are not comfortable showing their emotions and women can cry and get comfort in ways that they cannot.

The text exchange between you and your H was beautiful. Enjoy the moment, don't worry if it means anything. It was your compassion that touched him.

You have always impressed me, my friend. Your willingness to look beyond the casino v. parents debate showed true insight. It seems your H also realized how lucky he was!

My thoughts are with you and your family. Take care!

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Thank you one and all for posting to me.

It means so very much, and when I have time later I will thank each of you individually.

Just wanted to update.

MIL has gone into surgery. H said she looked nervous, and FIL looked scared too. Surgery may be over @ 5:30.

FIL is not following through with nap strategy but is keeping vigil with H. I am glad for that.

My heart's in my stomach.

Thank you again for stopping by. smile You all are my extended family.


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I am glad to come here and read that your FIL is going to keep vigil w/your H. Men express their fears/concerns/worries a lot differently then we do. Hopefully when 5:30 rolls around, she will be in recovery resting.

Hang in there. We are all praying for her.


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Mizjjd - Thinking of you and your extended family. Take care!


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Checking in, Mz. Jay. Glad to hear your FIL decided to stay, for all your sakes. Hang in there honey.

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Notlikingthis, LindaM, Snodderly, Portia, Takevowsserious and BRNR,

I thank you one and all smile

MIL came through with flying colors!!


Post-op always of some concern of course, doctor says first 72 hrs most critical. But so far so good smile

Knowing there was a "team" praying for good things was such a comfort. Thank you all very very much.


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Wonderful news, thanks for letting us know! Will ypu be able to go to the hospital?

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MJ, so very glad to hear that your MIL came through the surgury.

Often times, particularly with an MLCers, these kinds of life events can have a profound affect on them.

And so, your h was touched by your words and felt them. But more importantly, what a wonderful gift of unconditional love you gave him.

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