Just saying hello.

[prometheus]

When you get a chance, please let us know what complaints you have worked on.

I have had a think about this. When i faced my wife late last year, one thing i remember her saying was that i didn't look after myself. I took that as a complaint. It was true. Although i had started to make improvements before then, i suppose that my wife may not have seen them as such.

For instance, i gave up a 27 year smoking habit five years ago. Also, i have an illness which i had avoided investigating further for 15 years. Two years ago i finally went through the procedures i needed to, in order that treatment options could be presented for my case.

Both of those things were very big things for me, and i think that they symbolise the beginning of my own self awakening to the nurturing of self. They also demonstrate some move towards looking after myself - something i am not too clever at.

Since September (BD?), i have have started exercising 3 - 5 times a week and lost 9kg(20 pounds) in weight. I have studied up on nutrition and now ensure that i eat properly, am well hydrated, and that i get adequate sleep(have some trouble with this).

I sure feel a lot better for having instituted these changes. I have stacks more energy, and i would like to think that my mood would have been improved. I'm having trouble noticing *that* improvement. Even daily exercise seems no match for some of my emotions which can seem to well up despite my best efforts to "keep a stiff upper lip".

Which leads me on to another complaint - not being available emotionally?? or emotionally supportive.

All that i can say is that i tend to be very present these days. Am i a cold fish? No. I am very shy though, have a lot of emotional issues myself. Does that preclude me from being able to love and support other people? Gee, i hope not. I would rate myself as very unskilled and clueless though. Can you offer emotional support/safety to someone who does not trust/believe in you, as my wife seems to?

Being less sulky has got to be a part of the answer, no?