I have thought a lot about the 180's, and what is working vs. what is not working. I have concluded;
What IS working: (ie/doing the opposite of what I normally do)
~being 'mysterious' and starting new hobbies, (GAL) ~giving hubby space, and letting him work on basement whenever he wants ~not talking about/pressuring about relationship, ~not begging/pleading/reasoning ~staying positive, not nagging or complaining ~not being overly affectionate ~trying to be more easy going and trying to not to stress too much over things, trying not to call on my husband for help too often
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.