I have thought a lot about the 180's, and what is working vs. what is not working. I have concluded;

What IS working: (ie/doing the opposite of what I normally do)

~being 'mysterious' and starting new hobbies, (GAL)
~giving hubby space, and letting him work on basement whenever he wants
~not talking about/pressuring about relationship,
~not begging/pleading/reasoning
~staying positive, not nagging or complaining
~not being overly affectionate
~trying to be more easy going and trying to not to stress too much over things, trying not to call on my husband for help too often


M: 8 yrs T:14
Twins:7 S:5
BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013
Mar/Apr/May: MC
June: "living in limbo"
Sept 12: H moves out
Oct 20: reconciling
Jan-Feb 2014:MC
Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.