GM-I hear you on the kids. This journey is really hard when it includes them. I too have fairly young children, and my H "pretends" to be involved, but is really lacking majorly in a lot of ways. I have my thoughts that my H will take off completely once his lease is up. His care and concern for the kids is really rarely existent and only when he "feels" like it. So sad, and I hurt for my boys in regards. SMH! Nothing will ever change that, I see this. Maybe a little acceptance on my part, IDK!
Look, I don't have any advice on this, but really, really do empathize. Know that your kids do need a strong parent, and unfortunetly, that is going to have to be YOU!
BombOctober 2012- OW 11/28/12 -H still denies Separated 11/29/12 Own place 12/12/12 Confessed OW/EA/PA 2/2/13 Oct 2013 - I knew I was done Jan 2014 - Anticipating the rest of my life