So I had to do something this morning that has me a little puzzeled. My confusion...boundary setting vs. keeping the way paved home smooth.
H didn't arrive on time this AM to pick up the boys...so I loaded them in to my car and took them to school...Five minutes later H calls son cell and asks son to give me the phone. He yells at me and said how much of a d!ck move it was and that I should have called him to see where he was. I told him that we had gone through this before and I had told him then if he was late, that I would have to do what I had to do. He kept spewing, so I finally hung up on him. I had the kids in the car and driving in the rain, and not only did I not feel wrong, I wasn't going to tolerate his inability to see that he was late, he didn't take responsibility to let me know he would be, and that yelling at me, doesn't correct any of it. Bottom line.
I guess question is...how can a LBS spouse keep the road paved smooth when our spouses keep doing this. At what point is the spew, inability to accept responsibility, and the blame game and hurt and destruction enough for us LBS to count it as a loss and move on. I am not sure that I have reached that line, but am I wasting my time on H or is this really the patience that is needed and being tested?
Guidance or a thought on this someone?
BombOctober 2012- OW 11/28/12 -H still denies Separated 11/29/12 Own place 12/12/12 Confessed OW/EA/PA 2/2/13 Oct 2013 - I knew I was done Jan 2014 - Anticipating the rest of my life
