"Linda, thank you for reposting what Snodderly put on your thread. She does pretty much rock :)
I feel like I have come this far, and I want to see this through. Plus, I want him to have the space and freedom to see it through. I believe he will.
It's the LONG time frame that makes it tough.
And the part about A's dying a natural death and not bad mouthing the tart so he has to defend her? Yeah, I totally see that. I like to even take it a step farther. By getting out of the way and focusing on yourself, the tart may begin to bad mouth you and your H may not like that or feel the need to defend you. Which of course will make her more insecure and angry...
Let her do all the dirty work of trying to control and manipulate him. We wives just stay out of the way :)"
Good advice, my friend. I believe you're right, as these OWs get more desperate because our Hs stubbornly refuse to leave home, they'll get more strident and nastier and more demanding. My H told me the Tramp hates the fact that he still lives here with me. I overheard part of a conversation they were having on skype not long ago (okay, I admit it, I was eavesdropping ) and in her cute accent the Tramp yelled "why do you listen to THAT WOMAN -- who does she think she is -- the quing?" (I guess she meant queen?) H answered very quietly "she's my wife" Ha!
"This year was much different. No texting, at least that I saw. Was social, and talked and socialized with our families. Seemed at ease.
I wore a new outfit today, and although he didn't say anything (of course!), I saw him checking me out several times.
At the end of the party, I asked my mom to take a picture of me, H, and the birthday boy.
Since the bomb, H typically tries not to be near me in pics, avoids any physical contact with me. Today, he plastered himself right next to me as I held S3 on my lap. It was like having a normal family photo taken.
This is going to sound weird... But I had this excited feeling when my mom was taking the picture. I couldn't wait for a moment alone to look at it.
So when everyone left and H went to shower, I looked at the picture.
H is actually smiling with his teeth showing, something he's stopped doing during MLC. And he looks normal, no strange look in his eyes or uncomfortable expression.
Looks like I got an anniversary present after all "
Oh I'm so glad the party went well and you had fun! What did S3 name his blue fish? I'm sure you looked HOT and your H noticed!!! It must have felt good to have him plastered next to you
A couple of people have mentioned their MLCer looking "off" in photos and this puzzled me. But I just remembered taking a candid photo of my H at an Octoberfest last year, and deciding not to forward it to him because he looked so awful. So I looked back over my photos, and you're right, he looks strange in most of them. Sort of old, saggy, and gray, with strange eyes, like his smile did not reach his eyes. He looked better and more normal in the most recent one at S27's college graduation. I hope that does not mean the Tramp IS better for him...
) and in her cute accent the Tramp yelled "why do you listen to THAT WOMAN -- who does she think she is -- the quing?" (I guess she meant queen?) H answered very quietly "she's my wife" Ha!
