Bea, I have heard the same. My H definitely feels shunned, especially by the boys. They are children for God sakes and aren't responsible for adult emotions or actions. My H actually said that if he thought they cared he might have come home and tried to make it work. That's not something you do because the kids show you they need you. There's only so much rejection they will subject themselves to. He should have come home because as their father it's up to him to know what they need. They need a loving, strong leader in their home to guide them daily. In his mind they didn't beg and plead enough, but really he just didn't want the responsibility.
I tell you, Bea, all of this self-absorbed silliness gets me riled. I try to stay with my compassionate heart, but sometimes it's just too much. I am so sorry for you and your boys. It must have been really hard for all of you. How did you finish raising the boys on your own? I'm doing my best, but at all times I'm fully aware that I'm failing. I can't do the job that two parents can. That's the source of a lot of my grief.
