Dont know what to do...

[Cianna]

The morning of the 8th, he texted me to tell me about the bank account, I was free to spend the money in there.. and disposition of the horses. I responded that as I had expressed in the email, I would not discuss these items unless there is a mediator, and suggested a mutual friend. I repeated that I would not agree to terms or deadlines without a witness to the discussion, and he then told me to call someone. I again reiterated that this was his choice, as such he needs to make the calls necessary. He then told me that he wouldnt call anyone, and I said that meant that I wouldnt agree to any terms. At that point he told me that he doesnt need any agreement, he will do what he pleases with our account etc without my approval. I told him again, that I do not agree, and then explained that due to his threats, I felt bullied. He told me to call another person to mediate, and I repeated that this is his choice, his call. Finally, he called and set up an appt for Monday evening.

I had been working in the stalls, and my phone had been charging. He texted me 3 times in regards to the appt. He made the appt to speak about final divorce settlement, and not the current state of our account or the horses. I again repeated that he was supposed to have set the meeting to resolve the immediate issue of the bank account, and horses. Suddenly he called me to demand what I had written a check for $609 for. I told him I hadnt written a check for that amount. I ended the conversation, went on to the account and saw that now the account had $880 in it. (Still a $1200 check outstanding) I texted him and I expressed my concern for the fact that he had emptied the account, and that I was uncomfortable with him leaving me with no money. He told me "Well, I was going to put some money into the account, but not with that attitude."

He started badgering me via text, then said, "Remember, when youre out on the streets you chose this." More badgering, his main theme being that I am only with him for the cash. I continued to ignore his messages. Finally, he texted saying he would not contact me again, and I am not to ever contact him. The following morning, I received a text from him where he told our roommate to release my gun to me... (he has been telling the roommate to not give me my gun as I am emotionally unstable, he told another friend that he believes I would kill him.) Then another text, come to find out the $609 was a check he wrote and forgot about, and now, with the other checks he wrote, the account will be overdrawn.

Another phone call.. in which he badgered me some more, and then accused me of spreading lies about our divorce. I ended the conversation. I again asked what I was supposed to do about the account that was going to be overdrawn with my cell due. He then told me that I should just take all the money left in the account, "Spend it all, you have no concern for either of our financial well being." Then "I will no longer utilize that account" Back and forth about my horse... Thats another nightmare.. He tried to take him, but, I was able to stop that.

Then he began to call our friend who was going to help us mediate our divorce settlement, and we spent all day on the phone back and forth... He finally got so angry he told her, "I will stop at nothing to destroy her and make sure she is left with NOTHING." All because I wont leave the house by July 1.

He came into the house that night around 9pm. He came into the master, (he moved into the guest bedroom on May 9th.) I asked him to leave, I told him I was not comfortable with him in the room, as he was already beligerent, and antagonistic. He told me it was his d*** house and he could do what the f*** he wanted when he wanted in what ever room he wanted. I continued to ask him to leave. He sat down, and began to badger me again. I sat on the bed and just kept saying "ok" to his comments, which ranged from "Youre a pathetic money hungry b***" to, "If you had just left when I asked you to weeks ago with just your car and some cash I would have taken you back, cuz you would have proved that you dont want to be a burden anymore!" to "I hope you have cancer and die a long and painful death." He finally left after 45 minutes of telling me that this is getting ugly because I am forcing him to be ugly. As he exited the room he threatened to badger our female roommate as he feels she is on my side. He then called her and put her in tears.

After he left, I called our friend that was trying to mediate for us, and she told me that from henceforth notify him that I am recording every conversation, and then show him my phone and record. The next day he came into the house, began instructing our female roommate that she was to clean her room because there will be a realtor coming to take pictures, that he already has a buyer lined up.(yes, I was recording) He then turned to me. I asked him questions about the things he said the night before and he categorically denied all of it. He then began accusing me of being addicted to prescription pain killers. I offered a drug test immediately, he left.

He came to pick up his GFs (she was with him) horse today, and he arrived with a Sheriff. I was VERY grateful the Sherif was there. I had prepared the horse for transport, groomed her, and had all of her tack cleaned, and arranged neatly next to the stall. The GF still complained.

He then came into the house with a list of items that supposedly his GF said was hers. The Sheriff stayed out with the GF. My friend was here as well. He began taking items that belonged in the our home, and he said "Dont speak to me" when I objected. I left the house and stood out front with the Sheriff.

I have been advised that I must now file the divorce, so that I can stop him from removing items from the house, and replenish the bank account.

Whew! LOL

Kaffe; I have several medical issues that makes getting a regular full time job difficult. Also, I have been advised by another friend who is a partner in a law firm, to NOT get a job until the divorce is final.

Also, reconciliation at this point is going to take more than simply him leaving his GF and working to heal our M. His behavior is so erratic and out of character that Im now becoming concerned for him. Sincerely.

He had changed his default pic on FB to a picture of he and his GF. I expressed that since we are are all now monogamous, none of us are divorced, that he is now having an affair. His response was, "you encouraged this relationship, you cant tell me Im cheating now." His GF also told the Sheriff the same thing.