Thanks AnotherStander, yes the expectations have been my biggest achilles heel. I really think one of my biggest issues, was being selfish, as mentioned earlier, this made me not do the DB for myself, as I felt I was still being selfish. So enough of that. This will definitely be hard, in going dark. But I have to do this for my mental state, otherwise I will continue to go around in circles.


ME:51 W:46
M:25
S:22, S:20
Divorced 16/9/15
BD 10/12
W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12.
Dark since 6/13
I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.