Just read your sitch. 3.5 yrs eh? I can relate to what you feel. I myself is en route to getting off limbo. My W is stuck, honestly I think she sees a lot of good things in our M to just drop it. And now with all the changes I have made for myself and my relationship with my 3 kids I think I have put a doubt and confusion in her head.
I'm also standing firm on her EA that, that is absolutely not acceptable while we live in the same roof. I opened the cage for her to leave anytime if she wants to pursue OM, it's just I'm not gonna be there, you know telling her she can't have both.
Not sure what's gonna happen, I've been really holding off because D18 is going away for college in August just really trying to make things really calm at home. For all I know she could be thinking the same and will probly file for D but I'm ready either ways.
I'm practicing LRT and not initiating contact. Also not trying so hard to save this and this is helping me detach. I also feel the pressure is off my shoulders and not walking on eggshells trying kiss her a55. I feel more confident too and not depressed.
Anyway, just wanna share my sitch with you and the limbo land we ended up in. Keep us updated.
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
