Husband has one foot out the door!

[mizjjd]

Hwy61,

Affection can certainly be seen as pursuit, and pursuit should be avoided. The intimacy part has pros and cons. One of the vets posted something about that not long ago, I'll see if I can find it for you.

Couples counseling at this time is kind of tricky. I am very glad you were able to call a DB coach. It is likely that individual counseling, IC, will be more productive for you right now.

How does he respond to the children? There is no reason you should have to be the only caregiver. If you were to D, there would be a division of supervision and care. An excellent thing might be to find an out of the house engagement 2 or 3 times a week for yourself. Such as... a class, a workout, girls night out, what have you. Tell your H in your friendliest firm voice that you are going out and you need him to watch the kids.

What is the stress about your employment?

Being positive is a fantastic 180. I believe there is some truth to the "power of positivity"... (but some of it gets too new-agey for me too lol) Just bring more Tigger and less Eyeore.

Are you a nervous person? That is sort of what I'm picking up on from your posts... I mean normally, not just now, post-bomb.

And, I totally get the lots of little kids thing btw. I had 4 in 40 months... And now they're all teens... yee ha!

What is your financial situation - generally speaking. Could you get help in housekeeping or child care so you don't feel so overwhelmed?

Remember that everything is about YOU now. The 180's are to make you "new and improved", as in "I used to be slovenly but I did a 180 and am now a Stepford Wife". Or, conversely, "I used to be super uptight but I did a 180 and am much more relaxed now." So take inventory. What areas are you thrilled about? What areas not so much?

You don't have to make HUGE changes. In fact, its much better to start small, with things you can successfully, consistently master.

Okay. Off to look for the sex post. Take care.