GM - fwiw, our sitches have always seem to be similar although you are a lot further along...and I would like to say this to you...focus on you!

I am sorry if that comes off harsh, but I hear myself a lot in your post, but the difference is, I hope that I will be a lot further along in 18 months than you seem to be. But please know, I am not judging you, everyone works on thier on timeline...just something to think about.

If going no contact is for you and not about punishing H, then I say do it. I go back and forth with no contact and being dim....but you know what, I choose for me, and not because of H or anything he is doing or not doing.

GM - look how long you have "lasted" in an impossible situation. You have been making it on your own for you and the boys for some time now. And while it may not have been what you wanted or imagined, you have been doing it none the less. I am proud of you in this regard, and strive to be able to do that in my sitch too.

Focusing on you will really get you through this....and the more you do, the less the other things seem.

GM, be an inspiration to you and your boys. You can do this girl! So, what will you do tomorrow, just for you? Even if it is small, try to make this a daily goal of yours.

(((((GM))))) - good night!


BombOctober 2012-
OW 11/28/12 -H still denies
Separated 11/29/12
Own place 12/12/12
Confessed OW/EA/PA 2/2/13
Oct 2013 - I knew I was done
Jan 2014 - Anticipating the rest of my life