Welcome to DB. Sorry you are going through so much misery.
I totally get how you feel all alone. I do have children, but no other relations... when/if my H and I split I too will be all alone.
I guess you need a housing game plan first and foremost. Is there anything holding you in the area you currently live? (Maybe another locale would be more affordable & pet friendly)I know you said your fam doesn't know the sitch,and I gather you perhaps are more comfortable keeping it that way? but are they in any position to help out with a place to live? Even if just temporarily until you find a good option?
So much for you to deal with
Good that you have the friendly couple for support. Of course, you probably have read its best not to tell too many people whats going on because that can make it more difficult for the WAS to return. But certainly you need some sort of support.
It is good you have kept your cool when dealing with your partner, that is good dbing
Best of luck to you AA. I hope you will keep us updated.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
