Hi FY, was thinking about your wife, read this from an old thread...

From M Go Blue:
"A MLC person struggles to share what they are really feeling inside. They learned in childhood to not share their feelings and if they did they would suffer the consequences. They also learned that by sharing their feelings and asking for their needs to be met, they often faced rejection and abandonment.

As an adult, a MLC person does not know how to ask for their needs from their spouse, and they also "fear" that if they did, they would be ridiculed or rejected. They believe they are not "good enough" to have their needs met.

There are two basic human emotions, LOVE and FEAR. You cannot experience both at the same time. A MLC person is acting out of the "fear" inside of them. A MLC person does not understand what unconditional love is, as they did not experience it as a child.

As I learn more about myself and my twisted thinking, that was developed during my childhood experiences, the more I understand how hard it is to erase the old tapes inside my head and replace them with new ones. "

Hope things are okay today. She is hurting from so long ago, and doesn't realize yet that you are there for her. Keep being that rock, FY.

Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me

~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."