How do I know when it is real if we are to ever be together or if she is just using me.
If you do the work and she does, too. You will know.
So I drop the rope. I work on me. She pulls and I let go more. To what end?
To what end? Really, J? You become the man you were meant to be. And if she works on her, and you look to each other in the future, you can make decisions from a place of strength.
Are you telling me to give up on W or to put her away.
I would never tell anyone to give up on anything. I am telling you what I have been for a long time. Let her go to walk her journey and you walk yours.
Are you saying I am kidding myself with her?
Not at all. I am saying that neither of you are ready to be in any kind of relationship with each other. Your words to me where you cannot work on you while you are so attached to your wife. I agree.
She needs to figure her life and herself out, J. You need to let her so that you can figure out you. Because continuing to go round and round like this only makes you dizzy.
The way it is right now is not working. The way it was in the past did not work. Do something different.
