Ok, J, I am going to be VERY honest with you here because there are some things you need to hear.
I post to you the way I do because I feel you respond better to positive, specific words than you do to 2 x 4's. You tend to get angry and pull away when someone challenges you.
And so, I did not say what I should have regarding some of the things your wife texts you and I apologize.
Whenever she sees you pulling away a bit, she reels you back in. It is so clear, but, I know that you wanted to believe that wasnt it.
And so, I backed away from really getting into it until you were ready to hear it.
Well, I think you are now.
While you know that looking at your daughter's phone was not the right thing to do, you have the info now so it needs to be dealt with.
You are 100% right that your wife should not be speaking to her child about those things. I am so sorry that she is doing that to her.
Several of us on here have been telling you quite frankly and to the point that you needed to let your wife go.
You agreed over and over, yet, continued to text with her.
The information you now have has not changed anything.
You need to let her go, drop the rope, move forward, work on you.
You have a couple of choices here, J.
You can crawl into a ball and let this set you way back or you can use it to propel you forward.
