I think you are detaching, but just haven't finished the journey yet. Its a long road, and there are twists and turns. But give yourself time. You've had a lot to deal with in a fairly short time period and I think you are doing really well.
Peace
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.