"My weekend was,mmmm, odd. H came over Sunday to work on his car. I was "busy" with things. H and our son were going to go to a flea market and as they were leaving H- would you like to go walk around with us?? Whaaaat??? me??? I said sure, let me change my shirt. H said oh no you don't need too it's hot and that would be cooler for you. It was a tank top kinda thing. I NEVER wear that kind of shirt but I had bought 2 last week. So I said well it's kinda sweaty and H said again- no--just wear that one. Am I just desparately looking for something or was something there?? H never says anything at all about what I wear but I have been making a real effort to dress differently. So I leave it on, we head out and H runs into some people I don't know. I kind of wander over out of the way and he calls me back over and introduces me as his wife. It caught me off guard because yes I am but we are so not there right now. It happened again the same way later in the day. Am I so pathetic that I am grasping?? H has been in full on monster mode for months. We came back home and I fixed dinner and he said how good it was. He was leaving and I walked out to the car with him and he just kind of lingered for a bit. I came in and started cleaning the kitchen and he texted twice and then later on H called me twice and didn't really have a reason. And he was very chatty and he HATES to talk on the phone. I need to work on making my long stories short huh. He stopped by again Monday after work to work on his car again and asked if I wanted to sneak out for ice cream. Uuuuuugggghhhh....as for the appetite still MLC dieting. I have lost 11 pounds since March. Thanks for checking on me guys. It means so much. Wow you might be careful what you ask about since I wrote a few chapters. I will keep you all posted because I have no idea what is going on right now.....
I'm glad your H was a bit kind and seemed interested in you this weekend, Limbo. And that he actually remembered you are his wife Hopefully he's got a lot of that poison out of his system and will stop being so vile to you now. But don't get your hopes up that this means his MLC is winding down. More likely he is just going thru one of many, many phases. Enjoy it while it lasts, but as Cadet would say, don't expect it to continue.
Don't worry about "writing a book!" You should see some of my posts, they take up half the page! It would help for reading ease if you stuck a space between very long paragraphs though!
Good luck with your yard work and other GAL activities!
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
Hi guys...I have been in a kind of bad place the last few days. Just can't shake it and I have been trying to keep busy. Been doing lots of crying and I was so proud of myself because I have been doing so well with not crying. Thanks so much for checking in on me and caring. It means so much. Tomorrow is another day huh??
My XW was the same way. She would be adamant about divorce, but then enthusiastically introduce me to coworkers or clients at work as her husband. I didn't get it either.
Just remember you are on the picnic blanket. As he comes out of his castle and sometimes sits next to you, just keep enjoying your picnic. Whether or not he is there doesn't matter.
I am sorry you are having a rough couple of days. You'll pull out of it!
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
Thanks littleGTO. I am trying really hard to hang in the last few days. I have been really struggling hard and feel like I am really backsliding...is that even a word?? I just feel so used up. I need to suck it up and get a PMA going on. I just miss my old H and my old life so much. Thanks for all the support!
Hi LW- I got your post on my thread so I figured I'd visit.
I would like to say that I read through your entire sitch, but I just breezed through....I have been where you are lady, and in some ways still am. It does get better, the bad moments get less and less. Read some of my earlier "work" and my current stuff. I have and see the dramatics change in me, although I still have a long way to go.
The best advice I can give is deal with today and leave tomorrow for tomorrow.
((((LW)))) you will make it through this.
BombOctober 2012- OW 11/28/12 -H still denies Separated 11/29/12 Own place 12/12/12 Confessed OW/EA/PA 2/2/13 Oct 2013 - I knew I was done Jan 2014 - Anticipating the rest of my life
How are you today Limbo, feeling any better? Is your appetite any better? Any news on your SS claim or mortgage?
You're always in my thoughts, my friend. I know you feel crummy and weak, and get annoyed with yourself for crying many days, but look back to your first posts; you are SO much stronger. You are a wonderful loving wife and mother who has chosen to stand, to give her marriage a chance.
Hang in there LW, you're doing a lot better than I am a lot of the time
Hi Linda~~ I am just not too well. I just can't seem to get a grip right now. I am so thankful for all the encouragement. H is off in happy weekend land and I am miserable. Sorry to be such a downer. I am trying so hard.
It must be hard, really hard, I bet when your MLCer has moved out. I bet you're imagining him doing all kinds of fun things. Maybe he's not! Maybe he's bored and laying on the floor watching TV, fixing himself a crummy balonga sandwich on half moldy white bread, wishing he could have a home cooked meal, and wondering what YOU are doing
Hopefully he's got a lot of that poison out of his system and will stop being so vile to you now. But don't get your hopes up that this means his MLC is winding down. More likely he is just going thru one of many, many phases. Enjoy it while it lasts, but as Cadet would say, don't expect it to continue.