J, Just my opinion, but, I am not so sure that it is a good idea to write to your wife right now.
There really isnt anything that you are prepared to tell her, that you havent already said. And the rest, well, you need to work through.
And when you drop the rope, you just do it. You begin to live your life. You work on you and you look inward. You realize that you can only control you and that you cannot allow your feelings to be controlled by your wife's actions or words.
There will be a time, when you are whole again, when you are strong and have figured yourself out, that you can begin to take a look at your wife and your marriage and see where it stands.
That time is not now.
Let her go, J, so that you can really begin your journey. It really is the only way you can.
