She of course is still set on D, set on going our own way.
Don't be so sure of this. There is likely still a bit of ambiguity in her mind. ESPECIALLY, since she is still in your M home, and you both are getting along well.
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I do worry that I am not DBing enough, that I am slipping back into old 2.4 mode. I am pretty sure i am not, at the end of the day the changes i have made are still there, I am still better in many aspects of my personality and physical appearance. Some things are hard to maintain, and i had to drop a couple to avoid exhausting myself.
Was it you who posted an exhausting list of changes/gal?
Yes, just be your (improved) self for you, and don't worry about putting on a show for W.
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So I am wondering whether or not what i am doing is keeping things pleasant, friendly, and showing W that the new me, who i do enjoy being, but not really doing enough to rescue the M.
I know i can't fix her, and nothing i can do will change things quickly. But should i be trying some more drastic measures, or stick with the plan as is and wait it out?
What would you consider a more drastic measure? Why do you think it would help your M?
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
