Thank you so much Grace! When I get a thumbs up from you it really means a lot. Sometimes I don't post on your thread or Wonka's, SD's, Val's, or Bug's because I recognize that you all are so much further than me in this journey. But I read, and read... and when you all take time to walk with me, I just feel so supported.
I'm here now because I want to text my W. I have come up with an excuse. Our very dear friend and neighbor told me this morning that she and her son are moving Aug. 1. My wife and I have been the village that my neighbor has depended on to help with everyday life and her son feels like our own. She is a single mom, a LBS (when she first adopted him her partner of 17 yrs bailed). We met him when he was 5... he's now 14. He's been in alot of trouble lately with adoption/abandonment issues from his birth parents and has landed in trouble with the law.
My W knows. She and he have always been so connected. Daily love and interactions were the norm for so many years... but he has been worse since she left. He doesn't know any details but is super smart and just knows my W (his BFF) is not here and it has truly impacted him.
Today his mom told me she has decided to move him back upstate to her family to have even more support for him. I approve. I will make the time to visit and maintain our relationship. But my disappearing W has vanished from his life as well. (he texts her, leaves messages for her.. and doesn't get a timely response and it hurts him)
So today I thought. "When she finds out they are moving or have moved... and I didn't tell her... she will be mad at me." I FEAR that she will take the opportunity to blame her lacking relationship with him in me. When in truth... she abandoned not just me and her job... but her friends and this young man when she left for sparation and unhindered dating of AP.
Do I tell her? I asked my neighbor if she was going to call and tell her. She said no. She is hurt by my W.
I struggle to "Fix".
It's all so much bigger than my ego.
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
