He's not thinking about what you have had to give up or do to survive. It's all about him, what he can get and how much money he has to play with.
I think you are are surprised because you have been expecting something from him Keep your expectations at zero at all times. He's got absolutely nothing to give you oar the kids right now because he's so full of himself that he can see 10 inches in front of him.
Do what you need to do to keep you and the boys happy, healthy and living comfortably.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
