Thank you, snodderly. My H absolutely will not consider that his gambling contributed greatly to our financial strain. In his mind he is a great poker player (delusional thinking) so it's because I was a SAHM that issues developed. Within four months of him leaving I returned to the field that I left and am making a pretty good income. But that wasn't enough for him. He's never thanked me once considering my working reduces the amount he pays for support and provides a better life for the boys. In his words, too little, too late. Is this his way of keeping justification alive? He doesn't seem to find any other fault with me. It seems he must hold on to being right even if it costs him emotionally. He continues to convince himself that the boys will be fine and that "once the dust settles" their relationship will be back on track. Looking back, I can't think of a time when he apologized or felt he was wrong, so why am I so surprised?
