OK, I'm glad you are clear in your mind about the date. While I am sure that you want to believe that your date ALSO is clear about your intentions and does not have her own motivations, so be it. Just please understand that a sympathetic ear is one of the fastest ways to an EA and a willing body is the fastest way to a PA.

It doesn't have to be a bad thing. So long as you remember that everything that happens regarding this person WILL be a choice. There will be no "it just happened".

Great job on working on Chuck's advice! Keep doing what you are doing in that regard. Remember that it can take time for results to show up. What you are doing should eventually produce positive results, even if they might initially look like the results are negative. Many WAS/MLCers will get mad because they think it's just a ploy to get them back or the actions create feelings of guilt or doubt in the WAS/MLCer. Only consistency over time, perhaps a couple or three more weeks, before you can really determine if what you are doing is working and whether you should begin to add some new things to the mix.

I must have missed the vacation reference from earlier. Basically, as you say, a lot can happen between now and August. Leave that topic alone unless she brings it up.

Your best bet is to assume you could be going alone, although you are OK with her coming with you, if she decides.

If she brings it up, make sure she decides. If she ASKS you if you want her to come along, that's a dangerous one. Simply let her know that while you would enjoy the company, her company, on the vacation, it needs to be her decision to go or not go.

The above is for right now. As time progresses and you have a better idea of what you want for yourself and how you contributed to your part of the break down of the M, the response might change.

On success stories, we speak here about anyone who makes positive changes in their lives are success stories, even if a M is not saved. That said, a lot of people do want to see examples of M's that are saved. There is the following:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=postlist&Board=43&page=1

And someone else can post a link I don't have, which actually points to members who were active on this board and their Ms were saved. Although if you go into the piecing area, a lot of those people have or are in the process of "saving" their Ms.

You could be way ahead of yourself with thoughts that your W might approach you for intimacy, whether emotional or physical. Not saying you should or should not, why would you say "no"? Why would you say "yes"?